How to Feel Grounded Through (in)Fertility

In this episode, Jacqueline provides a personal and detailed month-by-month guide to navigating infertility. Drawing from over a decade of experience, she offers practical and emotional strategies such as timed conception, fertility testing, initial treatments, financial planning, and self-care.

The episode emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with partners, seeking professional support, and taking breaks when needed. Additionally, it discusses exploring IVF, fostering a supportive community, and managing the holiday season. Jacqueline reassures listeners with heartfelt support and shares the wisdom gained from her own journey, aiming to provide peace and confidence to those on the path to motherhood.

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Hey friend, thanks for joining me on Motherhood Intended today. I'm coming at you with a solo episode and this solo episode is honestly,  It's going to be good. Not just because I really like what I have for you today, but because this is my second time recording it. Yeah, that's right. Um, the first time I recorded this earlier in the week,  thought I did a great job.

 Audio sounded great on my end.  Then I go to edit it and, oh, There is no audio. There's a video of me talking, you can't hear it, um, but can't find the audio anywhere. Not sure what happened, not sure what got lost in translation with my mic and my settings in this program, but nothing is there.

So thank God it was just a solo episode because I would be very heartbroken if it was, if I happened to lose audio of like an interview or something. But yeah, it's all good. Things happen. Growing pains, I'm gonna say. , this season I have had the most technical difficulties of all the seasons.  Mostly because I had switched over the program I'm using to record.

And it's for a good reason. Everyone's switching over to this program. I can do video now. There's, you know, so many great features to it, but man, I don't know if it's a learning curve or just what, but it is always something with my audio. So, but we're good. We're good. We're here. We're going to recording it again today and I'm focused and nothing says focus more than a mom who puts her hair up in a messy bun.

I don't know if you can relate, but like, Every time I really need to get something done, I just feel better or like  focused if I put my hair up, whether I could be organizing, I could be cleaning, I could be needing to really do some thinking and strategizing, hair's gotta go up, hair's in a messy bun.

I don't know if you can relate, but I feel much more productive  when that hair is up. So that's where we're at today. I hope you're having a good week. Um, despite my technical difficulties, the week is going well. We're definitely have fall weather here. I'm staring out my office window now and like the leaves are blowing.

We've had some windy days here and like our whole entire cul de sac is just like covered in leaves and we haven't got out there yet to rake. A lot of people have, where we live, we have to rake. All of the leaves into the street and then they'll come like pick them up pick up all the big piles and everything  honestly, it's so windy. I feel like if we rake it's just gonna be all over the place Anyway, so we'll get to that.  

But yeah, other than that the week has been pretty typical for us My son hunter starts basketball this week last weekend soccer season had ended lorelei is Six months old now halfway to one and I am unwell. I'm unwell. I don't know where the time has gone  We started foods with her. She did get a helmet to help round out her head, which is actually going well Doesn't even seem to phase her But she is just she's awesome. \And I just can't believe that she is six months old. It is wild

So today's episode, I really wanted to provide you guys with this resource that I created and kind of walk you through it. This episode is going to be for my friends who are going through infertility, Or for the listeners who maybe not  categorized as infertile at the moment, but you've just started on your journey to trying to have a baby, you're going to want to listen  to this.

And if you're not in this place in your life, give it a listen anyway, keep listening because I'm sure, you know, somebody in your life. Who is on this path, or maybe you're even experiencing secondary infertility, and this is all new to you, even though you have a child at home.

So I created this month by month guide, the purpose is to keep you grounded and focused on your journey to baby. Let's face it, infertility is hard. It can be overwhelming and all consuming, but it doesn't have to be. A beautiful journey of love awaits you. It won't feel like it when you're trying and trying to get pregnant, but if you can prioritize some of these things, I promise you can look back on whatever your fertility journey looks like, however long it is, and look at it as a beautiful journey filled with love and hope. So if you're struggling to get pregnant, this is your opportunity to take control of your fertility experience. Now, obviously we can't control our diagnoses or lack thereof. I was unexplained infertility for quite some time. We can't control the timing of our success or the outcomes of our fertility efforts.

But what we can control is how we walk through the experience, how we care for ourselves both physically and mentally, and how we nurture our relationships and other things in our lives that bring us joy. Every path will look different, but this month by month guide that I created is here to help you feel calm, grounded, and focused on your journey to baby.

Because you don't have to navigate this alone. I say this all the time and I promise you the journey Doesn't have to be a lonely one no matter how hard it is There's someone there that can help guide you and that's what I'm here to do for you. So if you're new to the podcast I'll tell you a little bit about me Definitely go back to the very first couple episodes of the whole entire show You can hear my very raw and very vulnerable story of my infertility journey.

 But I come to you with 10 years of my own personal infertility experience. My path to motherhood included many doctors, medications, surgeries, seven rounds of IUI, which is interuterine insemination, two miscarriages, IVF, which is in vitro fertilization, three embryo transfers, a spontaneous natural conception, one stillbirth, and A pregnancy with the help of a gestational carrier. Ultimately, this all paved the way for the three children we're grateful to have with us. When I was in the thick of it, as every week, month, and year passed that I wasn't pregnant, I still never gave up on my dream of becoming a mom.

During that time, I learned a lot about myself, both physically, mentally, and spiritually. Through it all, my desire to have children remained, but I learned to open my heart and mind to new possibilities of exactly how motherhood could become my reality. And now friend, I'm honored to help guide you.  So this roadmap isn't about like New Year's resolutions or stressful to dos.

I did break it down as a month by month guide, but it's simply just a helping hand through the ups and downs of infertility. So my January on this guide can be your October, or whatever month you start to utilize this resource. I really just broke it down this way so you can kind of spread it out and look ahead and That way everything won't feel so overwhelming.

So this roadmap is not meant to replace medical advice, of course. So always reach out to your doctor with questions and concerns. I Started this map in January. In January, I want you to focus on your physical and emotional health. They are two of the most important components of your fertility.

You want to eat well, exercise in moderation, and find healthy ways to manage stress. That one's important. It's the hardest one in my opinion, but it's important. Make sure you limit caffeine consumption, and quit smoking if you're still smoking. If anyone's out there still smoking, just Not good enough.

Okay. I'm just going to say it. Quit smoking and your partner too. That's important and take a break from drinking alcohol. Your body will thank you in more ways than one. I promise you, like I mentioned, there's not much we can control in this journey. You know, our bodies are going to do what they're going to do.

We're only going to be able to make decisions based on the knowledge that we have, but taking care of ourselves is always going to be a benefit, whether that ends in a healthy pregnancy or not taking care of your physical and emotional health. Yeah. are important for your own well being, which in return can only help your fertility journey.

So coming to February, I want you to take some time to learn about Timed Conception. Home ovulation predictor kits give you a 12 to 72 hour prediction window, But you'll need to time sex accordingly and here's a hot tip sperm can live inside you for up to five days so if you can you should have intercourse every day leading up to ovulation Plus the day you ovulate so that's a six day window of opportunity each month I don't know if this is new information for you, but as 25 year old Jacqueline just getting married and thinking about starting a family.

I did not know that. I had no idea that there was only a six day window where you could get pregnant each month. And of course, that's like, if everything is working properly with your body and you know, in theory, there are no issues. There's a six day window. I mean,  I was on birth control since I was probably like 18. And,  I was just like, okay, I stopped my birth control. I can get pregnant for the first few months. My husband and I literally were just like trying all willy nilly because I was like, okay, I mean, I knew enough to be like, okay, the more we do it, the likely the chance of it'll work month by month went by and like.

No luck. And it was only then that I started to dive into the real facts that we should know about our bodies. So if this is new information to you, write it down. Six day window of opportunity each month. Use those home ovulation predictor kits. It will really help narrow that window, which will be a double edged sword.

I'll tell you this from experience because while it's very nice to know exactly what days are going to give you the best chance of getting pregnant, It also can put some pressure on the situation,  life doesn't always like to go along with that fertile window, you know, you could be sick, your partner could be sick, someone could be stressed from work, or you could be traveling, or just the opportunity, it just isn't great.

Give yourself grace. If you can't have intercourse for every day of that window, just give yourself grace. It only takes once, in theory, and if you have to skip a month You can always be ready for the next month. Life is never gonna, like, time up perfectly, so just keep that in mind. Because when we were going through it, I had put so much pressure on that fertile window, and trust me, it didn't help anybody.

 March is all about the more you know. So don't be afraid to contact your doctor for fertility testing to help identify what may be preventing you from conceiving. Infertility factors are split 50 50 between women and men. So make sure you get your partner tested as well.

These results can help determine the best mode of treatment for both of you. I know I was very focused on myself when we started this journey and I'm like, why aren't I getting pregnant? Why aren't I, I, I, well, it takes two, it takes two to tango. It takes sperm and an egg to create an embryo and have a baby.

So make sure your partner is doing his part as well. Like I mentioned, quit drinking, quit smoking, stay healthy. And then when you do feel like it's time to get some more information, both of you get tested because right off the bat, it could be a simple fix  like your husband just needs a supplement to increase his sperm count or, you know, there's a lot of fixable things.

And here's my other tip. Most doctors, most OBs,  if you're under 35 years old, they're going to tell you to try to conceive for at least a year before seeking treatment or help or diving in further. Okay, again, not medical advice, but I'm here to tell you from experience, you don't need to do that.

I mean it. Like, trust your gut. If you think something's not working or something's off, get more information. The first markers of like getting more information is not invasive. It's like a blood draw and an ultrasound and it can tell you so many things. I only waited six months before going to see a fertility doctor and I'm really glad I did.

You know, I just kind of had this gut feeling that something was off. There was something preventing me from not getting pregnant. And honestly, I had always had really horrible periods and anything related to like women's stuff. I just felt was like, you know what? I'm just, I just always have something going on.

So when I went and I got tested,  they right away found out that my thyroid level was off.  In order for my thyroid level to be in an optimal state for trying to conceive, I needed to be put on medication. Easy. The ultrasound showed that I had a blocked fallopian tube.

I had polyps that were blocking my fallopian tube. I had to have a procedure to fix that because for those six months, you know, essentially I was not ovulating out of one side and that was, making things take longer, decreasing our chances. So don't be afraid to get tested. It'll give you more information, and whether it's good or bad news, you at least can stop wondering and know what your next move is going to be.

On to April. Time to think about costs.  I know, it's never a fun topic, but I promise you'll be glad to feel prepared.  So if you've been trying for a while, and you're still struggling, Thinking that maybe down the line, fertility treatments are going to be in your future, see if you can reconfigure your financial plans to accommodate fertility treatments.

Talk to your HR, check in with your insurance company, and look into your fertility clinic's  options to help you budget for what's to come. Even if you don't think you're necessarily there yet, or maybe you're starting with some medications and IUIs, and unsure if IVF is going to be the route you'll have to go, or want to go, talk to your doctor.

Just get the information. Trying to conceive and getting negative tests month after month is already going to start to put stress on you and it can feel a little overwhelming. So don't be surprised when treatment costs come up or you realize you don't have coverage for x, y, and z with your insurance.

Do your research and look into what these financial plans are going to look like ahead of time.  It's not fun to talk about money. Trust me. I get it. I was in denial as well. For the longest time, we were like, we don't, we're not going to need IVF. We're good. We're good. We're not going to need that. And then when it came around and we were calculating costs, I wish I didn't have to use that time for my husband and I, to come up with a plan.

What's our plan? How are we going to pay for this?  So  take April, take this month or whatever month, April, it all's for you. Take the month and really dive into this and figure out your plan.

For May, I want you to focus on connecting with your partner in a way that doesn't involve conception. Unless you want to get it on, for fun. Like if, go for it. If that's, it's still fun for you after months of trying with no success. Um, definitely get it on for fun, but I want you to focus on something that doesn't involve trying to conceive.

After months of routinely timed sex,  it's likely that your relationship will take a bit of a hit. So plan some fun date nights to remember what brought you guys together in the first place. This piece of advice is one that I wish I had taken myself when I was in it. Because for like two years. My husband and I were on just a very focused track of trying to have a baby.

And it took a toll on both of us. It took a toll on us mentally, took a toll on me physically. And honestly, it took a toll on us financially too. And it got to the point where it kind of just felt like we are two partners in this weird, uh, business we're trying to start that's not taking off, you know, and that's spoiler alert.

That's not very romantic. Um, so plan a fun date night. Remember what brought you together in the first place? Cause I know that at the start of all of these journeys is excitement and love and hope and the dream of having a family of your own. So connect with your partner and remember that you guys are the ones who started this journey together and it's because you love each other.

So go out and have a fun date night and don't think about getting pregnant or trying to conceive. Just tuck that away for a little while and focus on your love for this month.

So come June. By now, maybe you've tried a couple fertility treatments with no success. You know, we've talked about knowing your options, trying timed intercourse, financially planning for things. Now, maybe you've dabbled in some fertility treatments and you still haven't had success.  For most people, the first step for many diagnoses is to try fertility pills.

I know I was on Clomid and or injectable meds paired with timed intercourse or an IUI to increase your chance of success. Obviously this is specific to everyone and what might be causing infertility, so not everyone will start with IUIs, but it's, it's a Pretty common first step and if the treatments aren't working or the side effects of these medications or IVF are likely just like getting too Exhausting it might be time to regroup, you know June or whenever you decide to utilize this piece of my guide I know for me like in June the beginning of the summer That's always a nice time to kind of regroup in general, right?

Like even when you're not trying to conceive it's like okay summer is starting  you're looking ahead to a new season Use this time to regroup. If you need to take a beat from some medications, that's a good idea. It, it will seem hard at first because your, your goal is still in mine. And  if you're a type A like me, if you haven't met your goal, you're gonna wanna keep going.  But I promise it will be more beneficial if you regroup, look at what wasn't working, maybe look at what was, talk to your doctor, and kind of just like take a beat before you move forward.  

Moving through the summer into July, this month kind of ties into the last. Take it from me, plowing through fertility treatments back to back might not be beneficial in the long run. Sometimes the best option is to take a deep breath and take a month off.

Go on an easy vacation or plan a staycation. Obviously fertility treatments cost money, time, energy. Take a break. July is a great time to take a break. You know, go do something easy. Don't plan this whole big stressful trip, but like, go on an easy vacation. Plan something fun nearby. It's a good time to relax, recharge, and gear up for the rest of the year.

You know, you've been working your way month by month through this first year, trying to conceive, whether that's on your own or with the help of fertility treatments. And it can, it can be a lot. So take July. Go with your partner on a vacation, relax, recharge, and buckle up because the second half of the year is coming.

Which brings me to August.  The infertility journey is a frustrating, emotional rollercoaster. A lot of times I remember feeling we'd take two steps forward and one step back. You know, we'd figure out one piece of the puzzle. Well,  and then the treatment wouldn't work. Or the treatment would work so much, but we'd have to adjust medications and do something a little different.

Consider seeing a fertility counselor. I did not do this or even consider this because again, I didn't know back then. I didn't know the toll it was going to take on me. I was too focused on the end goal. But I'm here to tell you now that if I could have told myself 10 years ago that Look, you should see a therapist as you're navigating this experience.

I would have done it in a heartbeat if I would have known how helpful it would be. Meeting with a counselor or therapist will allow you to share your feelings with someone who gets it, but doesn't have a medical agenda.  Throughout this experience, you might be seeing a few different doctors, you know, I saw everyone from,  my reproductive endocrinologist, my OB, multiple nurses, a chiropractor, an acupuncturist, maternal fetal medicine,  so many different people played a role in our fertility journey, but they all kind of have their own lane that they stay in, you know, your fertility doctor's goal is to get you pregnant. 

Unfortunately, they're probably not thinking about your mental health. or your relationship or your financial stressors,  but if you talk to a therapist, especially one who has experience with infertility, who  gets what you're going through, but like does not have any sort of medical agenda, it can be really helpful.

They can also teach you stress management strategies and help you maintain a loving bond with your partner. Which is huge. That's important. Couples therapy, even if you don't think you have an issue going on couples therapy is always a good idea. It's always helpful because you both might have feelings coming up throughout this process of trying to have a baby and start a family.

That are different and you might not always be seeing eye to eye, but you might feel afraid to share that with the other person, especially with like the state that you're in, you know, your partner might be like, wow, they're going through a lot physically and I don't want to rock the boat, but I'm feeling X, Y and Z, whatever it is, you want to stay on the same page, it's going to be the best way that you can support each other and keep your bond and your love strong through this experience.

 By September, assuming you started the guide at the beginning of the year, , you might be looking into a more aggressive option. Your chances of pregnancy and a healthy birth depend on your age, your diagnoses, medical history, your lifestyle, and then of course the lovely unknown factors.

If you're 40 and over. Or weren't helped with fertility meds or IUIs. It's time to learn all that is involved with IVF so you can make the right decisions for you and your partner if or when it's time to go that route. You'll come across people for sure that are just going to say like, Oh, well, it's no big deal.

You can always just do IVF. You can always just do IVF. I'm just going to tell you, there are two types of people that say that one, the person who's never done IVF or the person who had a really easy time doing IVF. And it was successful and it was quick and they created their family. And that was it.

IVF is not a one size fits all. It's also not like the first go to option. It doesn't have to be. It's not like you can't get pregnant on your own, meds didn't work, so now you have to do IVF.  IVF is a personal choice. There are other routes that you can go. There's adoption. There's surrogacy. And then even within the IVF realm, there is egg donors, sperm donors.

 There are so many options out there and Families are made in all sorts of beautiful ways,  but if IVF is the route that you're looking to go, it's probably time to learn all that's involved with it. So that way you can make those right decisions for you. 

I really truly didn't know much about IVF when we went into it other than what was written on paper, meaning like success rates were much higher than IUIs.  Almost to the point where I wish  I would have known that, or maybe we wouldn't have done so many rounds of medications. We would have just moved on sooner for the sake of my mental health and increase our chances with IVF.

 Also learn what kind of costs are involved with that. What kind of medications you have to take what kind of time commitment and everyone's chances of success are different Like I said, it's based on your age your diagnoses your medical history your lifestyle everyone's success is going to be different with IBF.

So make sure you do your due diligence And look at different fertility clinics. I ended up switching fertility clinics, before doing IVF because I didn't feel confident in the environment and the doctors and the nurses we were with for IUIs.  Being that IVF is a bigger step and  it has a bigger financial piece attached to it. I really wanted to make sure that we were at a place where we felt cared for that had high success rates. So make sure you do your research.  

For October, which we're in right now, you might be at almost a year or even longer into your fertility journey. It's time to re evaluate  strategies. By this, I mean like, what are you sharing with people in your life and what are you not?  At the beginning of my infertility journey, we really didn't talk about it much outside of our very inner circle, meaning like, what are you sharing with My sister, my best friend and, you know, my parents, but the longer our journey went on, the bigger that circle got because it was really taking a toll on my mental health, our lives, and we needed those around us to know what we were dealing with and what was going on.

So then once we got pregnant for the first time, we were obviously ecstatic and when I hit the 12 week mark of my pregnancy, I,  from what I knew, first time being pregnant, from what I understood, that was like the safe time, everything will be fine, we did it, 12 weeks, posted it onto social media that we were expecting twins, only for two weeks later to miss carry one twin, and two weeks after that at 16 weeks, yeah.

To lose our other baby. And that was devastating. And when we announced our pregnancy, we didn't announce that we had done fertility treatments. I wasn't openly talking about infertility, but it was after losing our babies that I started to openly talk about miscarriage and kind of talk about more pieces of our story

for me. This felt better. I was able to connect with people who had been through similar experiences. I was able to be open and honest with those in my life,  so they could know that I was grieving and we were having a hard time and that we desperately wanted a family still. But it can also feel overwhelming.

So if you're sharing too much, that can get overwhelming too. So you want to take a month to kind of just focus on reevaluating your communication strategies. Are you sharing too much with others and feeling overwhelmed? Are you not sharing enough and feeling alone? Utilize this like pre holiday season time for you and your partner to set new ground rules for family and friends who are in the know.

And it's important that you and your partner are on the same page with us and that you can be respectful to each other's privacy or wanting more support. My husband and I didn't always see eye to eye on this, so it was important that we had. Ongoing conversations to kind of check in with each other and see what would be most beneficial for us.

You know, it might not have been the first thought of my husband's to share on social media about our loss or to Speak openly about our infertility But for me, and after he saw me struggling with, you know, grief and just the stress of all of the infertility treatments and not knowing what was next for us, he definitely understood that for me it was helpful to talk about it. So check in with your partner and get on the same page for what your communication strategy is going to be. 

November kicks off. The holiday season, and the holidays are an incredibly tricky time for couples dealing with infertility. You've gone from fielding various forms of, when are you having kids, questions, to unsolicited advice about your infertility.

I know you've heard these, you know, the advice of like, oh, just, just go on vacation, it'll happen, just stop stressing, or just, Just get drunk. That's how I got pregnant. Yeah, not helpful.  So have a game plan, relay your wishes to your loved ones, or if you need to take a pass on holiday traditions this year, whatever will keep your stress at bay.

That's what you need to do. And know that it's not forever. Like if you can't show up to aunt Susie's Thanksgiving dinner this year because it's just going to be too overwhelming with all the questions and you're not in the mood to talk about your whole infertility journey. Just don't go. You will see them the following year.

You really have to protect yourself on this journey. And just take your emotional and mental state into consideration when you are moving through life because it takes a lot out of you when you are. Month by month, not getting the outcome that you want. Plus your hormones are likely out of whack. If you're on IVF medications,  it can be a lot. So have a game plan going into the holidays. So you can enjoy your holiday festivities to the best of your ability, or you can skip out on things that aren't going to be the best for you this year.

My focus for December is a good focus, whether you are trying to conceive. Navigating infertility or not. I try to do this every year, but in December, take some time to step out of your normal holiday routine and consider volunteering or giving to others.

It's easy to feel weighed down by infertility, But this can help you gain a better, broader perspective of the world at large. When you're in the thick of something that is so personal to you, and you don't know the outcome, you don't know if it's ever going to happen for you, you don't know if you will ever be a mom, that can be a lot. And every little thing in your tunnel vision can feel like it's just pulling you down further.

So by taking a step out of  your normal routine and focusing on others, whether again, that's like giving to others or volunteering for something, it'll allow you to kind of zoom out and see things from a different perspective.  For me, it always makes me feel grateful for what I do have instead of focusing on what I don't have.

And it really does give you a better perspective about the world at large. What your issue is or what you're experiencing or struggling with is always going to be valid. Your feelings are valid. But sometimes when we can shift our perspective or look outside of ourselves, we might start to see things in a different light. So take December and consider volunteering or just getting out of your usual busyness of the season. 

So that's my guide. That's kind of what I've broken down into 12 months. Like I mentioned from the beginning,  my January could be your July. It really doesn't matter.

It's kind of just a guide, a guide to get you through the year, have you focusing on one thing at a time and looking ahead to what you might want to do next. And of course, discuss any medical questions or concerns with your doctor but for advice and support from a community that can relate, make sure to join our private members only motherhood intended community group on Facebook.

It's over 550 women strong and growing. It's a great resource. We have some broken out chat groups going on for those who are going through IVF, those who have experienced a miscarriage and it's just a really great resource. Of women. I mean, everyone, it's a very diverse group. We have seasoned moms in there, women who are trying to conceive, moms who have adopted, working moms, all different kinds of women.

And so it's a great place to tap into the knowledge of others, ask for support, vent, and Whatever you need, the community group is here for you. And of course, the motherhood intended podcast is another helpful resource covering everything beyond the highlight reel of motherhood. If you're looking for a specific topic or need a specific resource on something, feel free to reach out to me. You can send me a DM, send me an email, and I can point you in the right direction of a podcast episode that I think would be useful for you. 

Now, it is to be mentioned that fertility treatments unfortunately do not guarantee a baby. This guide is here to help you feel grounded and focused on your journey to baby, but it does not guarantee a baby. It is really just for you to find some peace in the journey. 

Surrogacy and adoption are also additional family building options that may or may not be right for you.   And then of course, miscarriage, stillbirth, and pregnancy after loss are things that some women will unfortunately experience. Please reach out to me at any point for additional support surrounding these topics. I truly have been through a lot, and I'm here as a resource for you to share my experience, tell you what I've learned, tell you what I wish I would have done, or just to listen, friend.

I get it. I've been where you've been, and I'm here to help. So stay tuned for more in depth resources to support every avenue of your fertility journey. I'm working on so many awesome things for you, friend. You deserve the knowledge, peace, and confidence to thrive on any path to motherhood.

Thanks for listening today. I hope you found this helpful in the show notes. There is a link to grab a physical copy of this resource. It's a free PDF that will break down everything I just talked about. You can save it on your phone. You can print it off so you can reference it. And just  have on hand on your journey to baby. It's not always easy, but I promise you it'll be worth it. And one day you will look back and you'll be like, wow, what a beautiful story. And what a beautiful Testament to the love of the child I have today, no matter how I create my family. 

That's all I have for you today. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Always feel free to reach out to me. I'm here for you and I'll be back on the mic next week. Bye for now.