Transforming Bedtime with 'Olea the Magical Sleep Fairy'

In this episode, Jacqueline is joined by Amy Wiebe, a mother and the creator of 'Olea the Magical Sleep Fairy.' Amy details her innovative approach to solving children's bedtime issues, combining story magic with the science of human design. She shares the origins of Olea, how it transformed bedtime routines for her kids, and the broader positive impacts on both children and parents. Amy also explains how to begin integrating Olea into listeners' routines, introduces her courses, and discusses the importance of understanding human design in parenting.

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EPISODE BREAKDOWN:

01:42 Introducing Amy Wiebe and Olea the Magical Sleep Fairy

03:27 Amy's Journey to Creating the Sleep Fairy

09:39 Implementing the Sleep Fairy and Human Design

20:00 Resources and How to Get Started

28:07 Conclusion and Community Invitation

Transcript

 Hey friends, welcome back to Motherhood Intended. Thanks for hitting play and joining me today. I hope you're doing well. I honestly have been down for the count like the last five days.  I don't get sick often, and this is like the second time in the last month or two that I have gotten this like horrible head cold. Like to the point where I just, I couldn't do anything.  I had so much sinus pressure and congestion.  Ugh, it was terrible. I mean, shout out to my husband for literally doing all the things for three days so I could just get better and rest. Still a little nasally, now, but doing much better. I can function, go about my day. I can sleep again, thank God. 

I can't wait to have a break from this winter weather. Um, you know, this is usually about the time of year in Chicago, where you're just like, why do we live here? No, but why?  Why are we doing this to ourselves? My husband and I booked a last minute Florida trip for our family. So we're going to be spending a week in Florida, beginning of March. And I can't wait. I'm just dreaming, dreaming of feeling the heat of the sun and just dreaming of being outside without a coat. And you know, everything has just been so dry. I just, uh, it's going to be so nice to be in Florida for a little bit.  And if anyone has a suggestion for chapped lips, hit me with your best product.  I've tried so many different things and I just, you know, between being congested and just the dry weather and our house is dry, which, yes, we've got the humidifier going and all the things,  I've just been struggling with that. So. Send me a DM with your favorite products because I am over it. 

Anyway, on to more interesting things. Like my guest today. Today I'm welcoming on Amy Wiebe. She is a mom and she is the creator of Olea the Magical Sleep Fairy. This episode is coming at you with a new approach to managing your child's sleep and therefore helping you with your own sleep.

So if you are a mom struggling in the sleep department, listen up because Amy has a solution for you. After struggling through countless bedtime battles, she realized that the best nights of sleep that she got were the ones where her kids believed in the magic of a visit from the Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus.

And then it hit her. Children need more than just routine. They need a personalized approach that honors their unique energy. As a human design enthusiast, Amy has woven this powerful system into her sleep solutions. By understanding each child's design, she helps families create restful, personalized bedtimes that align with their child's needs.

Through OLEA, the Magical Sleep Fairy, she offers a fresh mindset for navigating sleep challenges, one that combines the magic of storytelling with the science of human design. With OLEA, families can transform bedtime from chaos to calm while honoring their child's energy type and creating magical restorative sleep experiences from one mom to another. This is such a creative and unique opportunity to help your little ones get the rest they deserve and for you to get some more sleep. Take a listen. 

 Hi, Amy. Thanks for joining me on the podcast today. This will be fun. I am so excited to learn more about your work and the magical sleep fairy and hear your story as a mom. So first let's tell us a little bit about yourself. Tell us about your kids and, we'll start there. 

For sure. Yeah. So,  I'm a single mother of two.  I definitely have a man in my life and we've been together for a long time and he, so all together we have six children. We used to live separately just. Well, because I love him so much and we don't,  there's so many personalities there that we can separate. I get that. So the way that I all started this whole thing with my two boys was when I was newly single about 10 years ago,  we moved into a different place and my boys were just struggling with not sleeping.

They were probably around the ages of  three and five, four or five, something like that. They're really close in age, 16 months. Yeah. 

 And it was just like, as soon as I got them into the new house and they were out of their like little areas and stuff like that, they really just had a hard time.  Going to bed and staying in bed, like, of course it was a new home, but, you know, they just, even like back at the old home, they wanted to come in, have a conversation, sit with me, like every single scrape, bump, bruise. ailment that they'd had in the last like six months, all of a sudden hurt and needed immediate attention, you know, with like polysporin or Band Aids or whatever.

 The bedtime routine was just like such a struggle for me. And I was working full time and then I would be getting them home from the day. And then we would go and do our activities. And then we'd have like our In quotation marks routine that we would follow, but it was just like, as soon as that lights out went, it was just, it was not sticking at all.

 And if I did give them to sleep, then they would typically come in, like, sneak into my room in the middle of the night,  and try to like, in quotation marks again, cuddle me, which ended up being More like an ambush and then get  kicked in the back or this is not my vibe at all. Like I want to sleep. I want to be alive for the next day, but it's not, it was just the compound effect  that really started to affect me because it wasn't just like I said, one night or a week or a month. I think it was a boat, like a couple of years of this, 

this 

is getting completely out of hand. And so I Googled everything to try and figure out what would be the best solution for them. I tried everything under the sun, whether it was like lavender spray or, the warm bath, the soothing bedtime, all of this kind of thing. And it just. 

That is the hardest way to end your day too. You're already a busy mom and you're so tired. I mean, even if your kids are sleeping, those last couple hours of the day are like the hardest regardless. So to put the bedtime stuff on top of it, when that should be your, Moment to just be like, Ugh. Like I did it like I can rest. Yeah. 

I did it. I get like a couple hours to myself. Yeah, but that wasn't kidding. And so it was like driving me crazy. And I was also, over the time of the compounding effect of no sleep, I was getting irritable. Right. And. Angry and I was like not even my own self. I was  missing the gym in the morning because now I'm dragging my butt you know, I'd fall asleep finally at like four o'clock in the morning.

And then, you know, it just, nothing was working, nothing was clicking. I wasn't in alignment. and I was not even a person. That I was recognizing like, you know, extra coffee, more wine, all the things that 

you shouldn't 

be leaning into. I was leaning into and. Yeah. It was just, it drove me nuts. So  the night that changed everything it was like two o'clock in the morning and Jack came into my room for his midnight cuddle slash ambush,  and, uh, I got up and I was just, I was ticked. I was  so mad and I'm like, this is nuts. So I went to my couch, my living room and I was  thinking in there and I'm like, Okay.

I got to figure something out. So I was just, I don't even know what I was. It just like boom, hit me. And it was like  the only time that the kids actually ever sleep without  being a big, huge struggle was when Santa Claus was coming or the tooth fairy was coming.

Yeah. And I'm like, well then where's the sleep fairy? I'm like looking for her  everywhere. Like where is this? Where is this woman? And I, I couldn't find her. So I'm like, well, I'm going to make her up. So I just like literally stayed up that night and I wrote down everything that I wanted to do. Like I wanted to  make her seem real.

Yeah. And I wanted to  bring the magic  into my home and I wanted to make it so that like  I had a helping aid in my home so that  I could lean on the sleep fairy instead of it just being mom's rules. It's her own. 

that is always so powerful when you can call in somebody else, whether it's a made up fairy or  anyone else, , you got to bring in the reinforcements. And I love that because it's so relatable how you're talking about, you know, the best sleep you get is when. Santa's going to come or the tooth fairy because you got to go to sleep. Otherwise they're not going to come. Like, I can just imagine that light bulb moment. And you're like, okay, no, but seriously, like, that's what works in the middle of the night,  

like I get so excited about it because it's just this secret sauce was like this mythical creature and it  literally like engage their minds in a way that I could never even do just as a mom was so perfection.

That's amazing. Oh my gosh. So after that night, you know, you came up with this idea, is this something you started talking about with your kids right away? Or did you work on it? Or like, what did that look like? 

Absolutely. So I really had to plant the seeds with my kids because they were at that five year old stage. And so they were like preschoolers, you know, they had friends,  they even like went to school Came back and said, mom, like, you know, this sleep fairy, it's bogus. Like you are nuts. I'm like, Oh no, she doesn't go to just any mom  goes only when a mom calls her because she's so busy, and she doesn't have elves.

That, like, work for her, right? She's like a solo machine, like, so she really needs to focus in on what she's doing. But she's friends with Tinkerbell, and you know, all these kind of things. 

I love that. And are you kind of just making this up as you go, or did you, like, That's the only way, right? Who has time, like as a mom to just like anything, you're kind of just figuring it out as the questions come up, uh, leave it to school kids. So 

I was so desperate for sleep that I would have done anything, but I really felt like  if I could get my thought pattern was if I could get them to actually believe in this mythical creature, then I would make it so amazing for them that it would then like in turn help me. So I didn't invite the sleep fairy over in the very first night. Like we really, like I, I actually caused some friction with the boys and myself. And I said, no, I don't know if we can call her right now.

I'm like, she's got rules. She's pretty strict. And I don't know if you guys will follow those rules. We don't want to let down the sleep fairy, you know, kind of like that, but you know, something to that effect. And I'm like, she's got rules, but I said, but if you do this, like all of her rules, five nights in a row, and she does bring like a little trinket underneath your pillow, um,  five days,  

that's a good idea. I love that. Oh my goodness. I swear. Some of  like best ideas and mom hacks comes from when you are at a point of like desperation and then you're forced to kind of like create, you know, um, and this is a good example of sleep deprived mother, comes up with this amazing, amazing idea and what. What a good way to help your kids too. I mean, if you're not getting sleep,  I'm sure they were getting better sleep than you know, you know, as they're in your bed taking up all the space and everything, but still  they're not in a good sleep habit. They're not in a good routine. 

That's so true, you know, I mean, they weren't getting a complete full solid sleep and once you have that, like one little bad habit, you know how you just kind of pull on that bad habit and to break a habit, you really need that timeframe to. Break a habit. It doesn't happen. You're just one night. So when I kind of got the magical aspect really in their brains and they were ready they're like, well, what are the rules for this sleep fairy? And I'm like, well, I don't know. We're going to have to call her and see if we're going to, you know, so then we kind of got some rules down and, they're like, okay, well, we think that we can do this. I'm like, well, are you sure? We ended up calling the sleep fairy the night that we decided that we were. So it was a friend of mine. We called her. 

Okay. Great.  Yeah.  

So I put them to bed that night. We followed these 4 rules that I had come up with, you know, like you go to bed, no fuss, no   then, once you're in bed, you stay in bed and you don't get up. Like, you make sure that you have your glass of water or brush your teeth or do all your things before if you get up in the middle of the night, then you quietly go back to your bedroom without waking up. anybody else. And in the morning you don't wake up mom until mom wakes up. So those were my, 

those are good.  

I needed them.  It worked the first night and I was like, what? Like, I didn't sleep that night because I was like waiting for them to get up. It worked the 1st night. It worked the 2nd night and the 3rd and the 4th and the 5th and I'm like, holy Dinah. I'm  here and I wrote out every single thing that I did and the whole story of it all. I wrote it out and then I basically shelved it for like a few years because I was just mommy. And I kept this sleep fairy rotation kind of happening in my house. And of course, you know, summer would come and then we would like. Oh, the sleep fairy's on vacation too, and you know, whatever, but so we would kind of in and out her. 

Yeah, as needed. It sounds like, yeah, 

as needed. And then to get back on track, even if they were sick, then, you know, of course I'm going to be up with them in the middle of the night if they're sick, but then to get them back on track that we started it over again.

So it was something that was just adopted into my family. And, you know, when the kids actually. Realize that she wasn't real, then they were more devastated about that than actually Santa Claus. Like she was such a big winner. 

Oh gosh. 

Our household. And it was, you know what? It was so fun because we made it so fun and it brought back the enjoyment of motherhood. We're now creating memories, like baking cupcakes for the sleep fairy or , Oh, let's make the sleep fairy a little lantern so that she can find her way in. And, you know, so we got to do arts and crafts and baking and stuff like that. And so it really made it part of our,

Like, like part of your routine. Yeah, that's so cute. And, I can understand I wasn't thinking about that at first, but like, being more devastated than Santa Claus, because it's somebody who visits regularly, you know, and like you said, really integrated into your routine. That's just such a great idea. And  I like that  it's flexible too, like you said, it's not that black and white, you know, obviously if the kids are sick or like the summer, you know, she's on vacation too, that makes so much sense. Okay, so you shelved it for a few years. What made you pull it back out and start revisiting this again? 

Well, because it was so impactful and I needed like in the instant that it worked, I was like, I need to share this with every single mother. And I wanted it to be the most gorgeous.  of all time. I felt like back then that there weren't really any gorgeous illustrations in children's books. And I wanted it to be so visually pleasing where you would just get like, do you remember when you were a kid and there was like this one book and you'd see like this one picture and you don't even want your mom to turn the page on it because I want to stay in this magical page. Well, I wanted to use that and I wanted it to just explode that. So I really wanted to make just, it was a love project of mine and I wanted to have it as a coffee table book you know, you have your girlfriends over for coffee and like, Oh, well what's that book on there?

And you know, kind of tell the story. But as soon as I published it, then I would get. Well, this is amazing. Like, where was a sleep very when I had my kids and all this,  but then people would be like, well, what did you do? And so I kept saying what I was doing, what I did, what I did, what I did.

And then, so I finally just ended up making a course that went along with that. So I've made that and then people were asking more questions. So I was working more one on one with people just by referral friends, family, and then, I really started integrating human design into it, which was a really big game changer because all children are. Completely unique. Every human is unique. So,  human design is kind of like, , I call it like a mother's intuition on steroids. I feel because I was like, so sleep deprived during those years that my mother's intuition was absolutely nil and void.

It was fogged out. I was completely running on fumes. 1 night, my kids were sleeping, like, before I implemented sleep, fairy 1 minute. It wasn't like one night. It wasn't. And when I learned about human design and how every human has a different energy type, you couldn't really pull from that and make choices on how you're going to put your child to bed that will actually help with your children. So for example, my one son is a generator, so he would really benefit from like, they have a lot of energy. They're really full of energy and all this kind of stuff. Yeah. So for him, a bedtime routine of like relaxing, soothing, and all that kind of stuff would not fly with him

what he needs to do is accept Expel his energy. So if I took him out for a bike ride or a walk or a swim or something, and to expel all his energy, his physical energy, and then do my bedtime routine with him, and then have a conversation with him afterwards, like once he's tucked in about his day to expel his mind energy, then that would. Ease him off and put him into bed 

as max. He's like more of he's a manifestor. So he really does need that wind down time of an hour. So how I kind of played with that was we would have dinner. We would go and do a physical activity to manage. Jack's energy type. And then we would come home, do bath, bed, the whole routine, reading the books.

But then I would let Max go and read on his own in his bed for a while. I would go and talk to Jack and expel his energy that way. Cause that's, you know, something that would like work with his design. 

Yeah 

Then I would go and talk Max in the final time and then it would be done. So pulling the, like, with the sleep fairy and with human design, it's really like this  explosive, incredible system that I've come up with, and it's just,  amazing. 

That's so interesting. And actually those two human design types I don't know enough about it to know all the different types, but that sounds like both of my boys.  One would def is definitely needs to like get the energy out.

And then the other one, He wants to talk and wind down and do all that before bed. That's really interesting and I'm glad that you brought that up or that you talk about that because you're right everything I mean it sounds so amazing, but it's not every everyone's unique like you said every child's unique. And so, that combination is. It's good. It's so helpful. That's awesome. 

It's been such a, a game changer. I have a client, I was just working with her last week and her child  he wets the bed in the middle of the night and well, he's actually also a generator. And so we worked with him on how, you know, like we changed the rules of the sleep fairy to match more what he is doing what would work well for him  instead of like, you know, coming into mom's bedroom at night,  we got him all set up where to build his confidence really is like when he does pee the bed at night, we  got these blankets all sort of like these waterproof blankets.  he has now a system where he can take them off himself, get himself all dried up and organized and then back to bed, which improves his self confidence, you know, helps him with his sleep pattern. Like he just feels more like he's doing it on his own. He's grown up boy. So it really just does hold all those aspects that you're trying to teach as a mom anyways, but just with having a little mythical creature in the background and then knowing that human design element that Really helps out like if your mother's intuition is just a little fogged down from like so tired It just really is just this such an impactful way of doing it 

Yeah, it's so interesting and I know you probably hear this all the time, but I wish I would have known about this  There's still time. I still have you know, my nine month old so we'll see how that goes. But  yeah I wish I would have known about this a few years ago because it's That's just awesome. That's amazing.  So you've got the book and you've got a course that you do. 

Yep. I have a five, uh,  it's five module course.

Okay. 

And there's,  letters to and from the sleep fairy, a sleeping checklist,  troubleshooting, you know, cause  I have found when my kids were sick or something like that, and they were like, would feel down on themselves or something that they were upsetting the sleep fairy.

So I would quickly in my thing, like write something out and be like, don't worry. We see that you're sick. It's okay. We know that you're doing excellent things and keep  encouraging them, encouraging, encouraging them. So that's why I had the letters from the sleep very to and from, and then,  we have a sleeping checklist.

So When the kids wake up in the morning that they can like put a sticker on their calendar. You know, a sense of accomplishment, like putting it on that calendar. So  they're, they're doing it and they're crushing it and they're just so proud of themselves. Right. 

Yeah. It's just such a fun experience for everyone involved. Like it's nice to see your kids feeling more confident and being proud of themselves when they do it. And like, from the kid's perspective, it's like, it's fun. It's not like the normal routine that any parent who is struggling with a restful, sleepful night and  sleep habits with their kids. I mean,  you kind of dread going to bed every night cause you just know how it's going to go. And  the end of the day, I, I really like it to be a happy, peaceful time. It's like, Especially now that my kids are getting older and  my oldest is in school all day. I feel like the nighttime is our time to be together before bed and when it's a struggle or it's annoying or you're like battling, you know, go to bed, go to sleep. It just doesn't feel good. So this is like such a nice way to end the day on a positive note and something to talk about together. And I just think it's brilliant. It's a great idea. 

Thanks.  It's wonderful. 

 Okay. So what is the sleep fairies name? Because she has a name, right? 

Yeah. Yeah.  All of our kids. When I went to publish the book,  and I was creating it, I wanted to put  names in there. So a bunch of the kids, like our kids, they had a hand in all of it. Olea's name was,  picked out by our daughter Daisy and, it's Olea. 

Okay. 

And so she went through and picked out the name and Isabelle then,  picked out like the hair and the earrings and then Penny  we have this gorgeous picture of her with like a double rainbow when she's on our horse or whatever, and we put that in the front cover, uh, Max and Jack of course are in there. And then we have two friends of ours that were with me through so many adventures when the kids were young. And so Calvin and Paige are in there. And so it was just like this thing of love, like so many family and friend pieces that are in there. That have created this book and it's such a beautiful, visual book as well as like a wonderful story and the kids just gobble it up. It's just so great. 

I love it. That's awesome. What a meaningful project to have everybody involved too.  It's gotta be pretty cool,  knowing,  as your kids get older  even though. They're crushed about, you know, finding out about the fairy. It's like, no, but look at how awesome this is. That like was all created together and you're a part of it. And  it'll be cool as they pass it down to their kids. And For anyone who wants to start participating and implement the sleep fairy into their routines. Where should they get started? Where can they get the book and the guidance? Where would everybody go to for that? 

Absolutely. So, the book you can get on Amazon. If you go to MagicalSleepFairy. com, you can also purchase the course there. It's 47. It includes the book right now. And so there's that. And then if you're more looking one on one. I do do a Mother Whisperer program, which is a 60 day full, high intensive program where I'm working with you one on one and we go through your whole Family is human design. So this will help with communication, being able to talk to one another, know how  you and your partner will communicate with each individual child, how it'll help them with their sleep patterns, just different things like that, all within the human design. And then also,  if the Mother Whisperer is too big of a program, I do a smaller reading for two people just in a one session intensive and just kind of give you some guidelines on that as well. So the MagicalSleepFairy.  com is where you can find me. And then also you can just look me up, Amy Weibe on Facebook  or magical sleep. Very on Instagram. 

Awesome. That sounds like the perfect combination to work with you. 1st, and kind of learn more about yourself and your family, and then to  dive in with the sleep fairy thing is, like, you said, it sounds like it would be best to go hand in hand you're parenting different kids and everyone's different. So, sounds like a good combination.  As you were talking, I was thinking like, wow, there should be  some sort of group where moms can talk about how it's going or like help each other out or like a Facebook group. Do you have anything like that? Or is it, directly with you. 

I'm actually, I've just brought my business online. I've always just been referral based. 

Okay. 

So I just actually started a group and I haven't even opened it up yet. But  it'll be called the mother whisperer. It is that and I'll be inviting people into that. I do do,  live trainings, once every two months. So people can dive into that and register there, but you can find out a lot from my personal page on Facebook. That's where I am a lot right now as I'm building it all out  online. It's just getting everything online set up.

Yeah. Oh, I get that.  It's a whole thing.  I forgot to ask. So did you publish? The sleep fairy, like, how long have you been doing this? 

Yeah. So I wrote the story, like the full complete story in 2018,  uh, it was published in 2019.   And I, I literally, and it was completed and then I got all the books. March 2020. So no one would put my book in there, so that's that. Yeah, so then that's when I started building more of the digital courses and stuff like that.  it just really has been referral. 

Yeah. 

Those many years. But now, I just at a point where it's getting to be more and more questions in this. And I'm like, I got to have a place for people to go like, we're just getting our going here right now. 

Yeah. Well, it's a great idea.  I look forward to seeing  everything kind of transfer online and the community that surrounds it and everything. That's exciting. That's really exciting.  

I absolutely love it. I am working on it more full time now  than I was in the past. I was always like a little side hobby. 

Yeah. 

But now it's. It's full time and I just, I love it. I mean, the kids love it, the parents love it. It's just so incredible. And you know what? The best part is aside from the fact that the kids are now sleeping and you're sleeping is that you actually get to become the woman that You've always wanted to be the mother that you've always wanted to be.

Yeah. Like you're not dragging your butt all the time and just banging your head against a brick wall. Like you're just literally following the energetic roadmap of your children implementing this sleep thing. And it's just, it's making such an impact and an, and it's easy. It's like an easy, full transition into knowing what your kid is like, even when they're.

Firstborn you can like pull their human design and know exactly how it will be for them and What a game changer We all want roadmaps in the playbook on how to parent This is literally it.  

That is a game changer. I mean, having those couple hours, at least in my opinion, you know, having those couple hours when your kids go to bed to yourself to just decompress, feel like an adult, do something Lord forbid, if you have like a hobby or just want to like watch trash TV or read a book or whatever it is like that brings you back to life and then getting a good night's sleep so you can do it all over the next day, but feel your best self.

I mean, that is.  Honestly, it's, it's priceless.  It's so important. So important. Well, Amy, this has been really interesting  I'm glad I came across you. This magical sleep fairy is just such a brilliant idea. So thank you for putting it out into the world. And I'm so glad that listeners are going to be able to hear about it. Thank you so much for joining me on the podcast today. 

Absolutely. Well, thanks for having me. I love chatting about it so it's been wonderful.  

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